(Gen 3:12) “And the man said, the woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.”
This is the statement Adam made to God after eating the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (the forbidden tree). He attempted to blame God and his wife for the problem he now finds himself in. Thus, it is so easy to blame someone else for our problem; it seems so easy to point the finger at someone else when we find ourselves in a mess. Therefore, I submit to you that the majority of all marriages that end in divorce all started because one or the other spouse in the marriage placed blame on the other instead of looking at themselves first. In our understanding of God we know that if Adam would have told God that he was sorry or that he messed up or God forgive me, I have to believe that God would have found a way to keep at home in the Garden of Eden. However, blaming his wife for his troubles brought about expulsion from the garden and separation from God; and when a husband or wife starts finger pointing in their marriage, separation won’t be far behind. The lesson we can all learn from this text is if you messed up be man/woman enough to say “I messed up”, and take responsibility for your own actions. Secondly, unless you are perfect don’t be so quick to say it’s all her fault or his fault; take a good look at yourself. In fact, you may want to ask the Lord to change you and help you see this issue from His perspective. Finally, never point the finger at God and say things like “if it were not for that woman/man you gave me”, because you need God’s help to bring you out; it’s never God’s fault because He is perfect. We could all think if it had not been for the other person I would have been better off, however the truth is you could be worse off.
God Bless You.