(Gen 2:24) says “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his own wife: and they shall be one flesh.
From the beginning of time God expected at least three things to happen in every marriage:
The first thing is that a man would leave his father and mother: This implies that he would leave the parent’s behind and the family he grew up in to take a woman’s hand in marriage and publicly declare his love and union with her. When the husband and wife have made such a declaration, they have a greater reason to give themselves to building a committed relationship one with another.
Secondly, the man would be joined with his wife: To be joined in the Hebrew means (to stick or glue together). Like two pieces of material being glued together, the husband and wife can’t be torn apart unless one or the other decides intentionally or unintentionally to separate or tear themselves from the marriage. However, in the beginning God expected the two to be joined for life, to stick together through thick and thin, good and bad, and in the ups and downs of life. In other words, marriage is work and nothing from nothing leaves nothing. If you want to see something good come out of your marriage you must be willing to put something good into it, and the only thing that’s good is God.
Finally, they would become one flesh: to become one flesh involves making love. However, it goes beyond the physical press of the flesh. It also means that the two must become one from a spiritual standpoint: Meaning that they come together and they share their dreams, hopes, fears, possessions, feelings, difficulties, successes, failures and finances with God and with each other. It means that as husband and wife we must become transparent with each other.
It does not mean that somehow the two personalities no longer exist, but the two personalities should be developed in partnership with our spouse for the benefit and edification of the marriage. Too often, one spouse or the other desires to make the relationship about them, but when we share those things I talked about earlier, successes, failures…etc; it now puts us on a path to see some victory in our marriage… and the truth is that everyone needs to see some victory from time to time to stay in the battle for their marriage.
God Bless You
Pastor Versal Mason